Since my faithful Suits days, I’ve been a fan of Rachel Zane and Meghan Markle. Since I first saw Prince Harry’s charming smile, and his full ginger head in comparison to brother William’s *coughs* balding *coughs* head 🙊, I’ve loved him, his not-your-regular-waves-and-smiles royal self, and his humanitarian efforts!
The first time I saw the news of Harry and Meghan seriously dating, I was like 😧!! How did that even happen?? They aren’t from vastly different worlds, seeing how they’re both celebrities in their rights. But how did they even meet???? I was stunned more than I can tell.
Fast forward to when they decided to announce that they’d be getting married. I was like, back up. I don’t see how they fit into each other’s lives. Meghan’s probably going to have to give up her American free life for a subtle, tamed royal one. But I can’t even see how they fit together 😕. So I started to ask myself, do you like one of these two more than the other and maybe feel one would end up being insufficient or too much for the other? Is that it?
After more deeply analytical thought than I’d like to admit 🙊, I came to the conclusion that I was simply paranoid that the 21st C’s culture of irretrievable breakdown of marriage would creep up on them, given that they’re from two different planets. The one prayer I have for this globally sentimental couple is that their marriage will forge ahead of their background differences, and that the media won’t get between them when they incessantly start to dig through this life and beyond to find things to tear them apart or to cause “royal drama”.
Now those are my thoughts on the royal wedding 😁.
The second part of my narrative today is to address these cries of “change”, “everything changes”, “this is the beginning of change” and all the other change-related epiphanies people are suddenly having about what this wedding symbolises.
Abeg, which change are you people talking about? Let me in on it ☹️.
See, this is a wedding — never minding that it is not your average wedding because of the arguable undertones of minority ascension, “black empowerment”, second chances, broken stereotypes, among others. That the wedding had a significant, deafening black theme to it does not necessarily translate into black culture permeating the British royal family or traditions, or into blacks being any more respected in the U.K. or in the world than they currently are.
That Meghan, a divorcee, got an incredible second shot at forever love and with royalty as the cherry on the cake does not guarantee that divorcees will now be more respected or treated with less judgment than they were before the wedding.
That Meghan is considerably older than Harry won’t necessarily change the views of those who unapologetically believe that the man should be older than the woman, and that age in marriage is a big deal.
That Meghan is getting married at 36, albeit not for the first time, won’t exactly convince younger people who are almost moving heaven and earth to get married before their next birthday to take it easy and let things happen in their own time.
The point is that Meghan representing and symbolising a whole lot does not necessarily guarantee a better tomorrow or a less cruel world for the global demographic she represents. We need to be the change we’re so desperate for, and not wait for other people to ascend to places of grandeur, privilege and power before we feel like we have a voice that needs to be heard. I don’t see much changing, or anything too significant, at that.
No doubt, Harry and Meghan’s union is a landmark in history, considering — as popular media has now termed it — all the odds against Meghan in comparison to all that Harry is representative of. It’s really the classic Cinderella story. But that “things” will change because of it? Well, I pleasantly stand to be corrected by time🙃.