Yes! Welcome to reality. Things fade, so do people and what they represent. We all have phases in life and they start and end. So do people. The majority of them have seasons for which they’re supposed to be in our lives. It’s like they’re in our lives on lease; their stay will expire eventually! When they’re out of season, it becomes obvious and telling. Cut them loose! Or let them fade away naturally; don’t hoard them.
Me: Imagine if…
Brain: Pfft! Carry on! 🙄
Back to the discussion 🙄. I don’t know about other people, but I start to get tired of people after a while, except if the friendship or relationship is really grounded and is constantly refreshed. If you can’t initiate or carry on an intellectual conversation, or be spontaneous and random and engaging in your conversation — texting, calling or in person –, we can’t stay friends long enough for the summer to start and end.
I don’t even know how people expect a friendship to grow and remain sustainable, if they don’t understand that friendship — as is every other relationship — is a two-way street. Both parties have to put in effort, both parties have to be able to communicate on many levels and in a way that’s clear to the other person. If communication is plain and bland and without content or substance, I’m out. Jesus did not die on the cross for me to be managing you. There are more interesting people that I could be expending my time and attention on.
The natural things grow without superficial effort. You’d find yourself effortlessly putting effort if the connection is genuine and natural. I’m positive a good number of people can relate: it takes activity and effort to keep some of us going. If those are missing, I’ll find them elsewhere. The detachment is real (I ain’t got nothing to do with it tho 👀). I’ve been casual friends with some people for years, whereas I’ve been close friends with some others for just a month… or a couple of weeks 👀. Oh, did I forget to mention? I’m one of those people who get bored very easily, only, with people too. I need activity, adrenaline! I live on adrenaline 🙊 in excess supply, too.
So… don’t be a new pair of limited edition kicks that goes out of season the moment a new range is out. Be a … ok, I got nothing 😕. Mind you, you don’t belong in everyone’s life forever or indefinitely. Also, there are some people in whose lives you’re there only for a season. When your season is over, don’t wait to get chucked out or tucked away until next Christmas (I’m on a roll today 😀); take your leave and move on. Trust me, it will spare you both the awkwardness 😕.
Till Friday, stay chill and loyal! ✌🏾