Me? Hoarding emotions? 😂 Girl, you’re lost. 😂 Hoarding emotions … 😆 Oh, please. 😄
Funny story, you are. Yes, you. So am I, don’t worry. Let’s start from here: do you ever feel an emotion, especially negative, but decide not to express it? As in, do you suppress or repress your emotions? Do you get mad at someone, or over a situation, but don’t show it? Do you feel the need to shout, but don’t? Do you want to hit someone or something, but don’t? If you thought “yes” or hesitated to any of those questions, news flash: you do hoard some emotions. Again, I do, too.
Here’s the important part: it’s unhealthy. If you haven’t heard that or something similar, before, I don’t believe you. 😝
You have a bottle of soda. A 2-litre bottle of cola. Every time I say something that you don’t like, or something unpleasant happens, you shake the bottle of cola. Let’s assume that I’ve decided to be very annoying, and so has today, incidentally. I’ve just said something annoying, so, you shake the bottle. It fizzes up at the top. You put your food in the microwave and it fries your food beyond poke-ability with a fork (if that’s a thing). You shake the bottle. Again, it fizzes up at the top and, even more, as the gas from the previous shaking has yet to flatten. At the end of our little rendezvous, you’ve shaken up that poor bottle of cola so much that, even I don’t want any of it.
Someone walks in and sees an independent-looking bottle of cola on the table. He opens it and, voila, all the gas is flying out! Awwww! 😕 Now, part of the kitchen floor is a mess! The table and some of the chairs felt the brunt of that explosion. 😕
See, that bottle that has now had a gaseous volcanic eruption could be you. It could be me. When we bottle up our emotions, we build up gas at the top of it all. When people or situations rattle us up, we threaten to erupt, but manage to hold it in and be civil — that’s not to say that when I very scarcely fly off the handle, I’m uncivilised. No, thank you. When you get that final straw — the unsuspecting person or situation that just uncaps your bottle —, you erupt. And with a splatter and a loud bang. Oh, yes. Just imagine lava crawling out of a volcano, a distance from you. No one wants to be near such! Oh, except if you’re the fearless live reporter.
Guess what? Just like the earth holds magma for only so long, you also hold in (hoard) your emotions for just a while. Eventually, you’ll erupt, and searing. The way that gas can’t stay in your system — you either burp it or fart it out — is the same way that gas (negative emotions) can’t stay in your mind/ heart, forever. You can’t wish them away or make them disappear. Sure, you may push them to the back of your mind (that’s you hoarding), but each time that you come into contact with a trigger, it’ll all come rushing to the front seat.
Now, this is where you probably expect me to tell you what to do. I won’t. I’m not a therapist. I can only tell you what works for me. I find effective avenues to let the steam out. When someone pisses me off and makes me clench my fists or something like a kitchen door scratching the heel of my foot gets me rolling my eyes or kissing my teeth, I turn to my notepad (I type, I hate hand-writing) and vent out all my anger, with emojis, of course. It helps me initially get it all out. Then, I could go off somewhere — I avoid talking to people when I’m angry — and cool off because, after a few minutes, I laugh at everything. So, I go back to my “note” and read my entry. It helps me get over how I was feeling because, at that point, I feel as if I’ve obsessed over it, enough. Time to move on. Oh, sometimes, I sit still, chest out and take 10 inhalations and exhalations, each.
Bottom line: if it’s writing, if it’s swimming, if it’s grinding at the gym, if it’s standing in front of a mirror, if it’s waiting to cool off and calmly confronting the person who’s got you unhappy, if it’s taking a shower and sleeping under it (like I do), if it’s talking (venting/ranting) to someone, if it’s counting to ten, if it’s inhaling and exhaling, if it’s walking away and going to cool off (and revisiting, afterwards), if it’s going for a run, I could go on and on …. Whatever your resolution is, just don’t bottle your emotions in! Let them out. Let them go.
Intuitive people can tell when you’re oozing negative energy — it really is like farting rotten egg in a public place — and it is repulsive. No one wants to be around someone who’s killing their vibe or sucking up all their positive energy. All that gas (and lava) isn’t good for your system. 🙂