From where did we get the idea that we could buy people’s forgiveness with material things or favours? 🤔 Maybe sugar daddies or sugar mamas? 😕 I mean, I don’t know if they apologise; I’m just assuming that they don’t need to since money is their voice.
It’s not even just material things. Some people buy forgiveness by doing something that requires appreciation, for the offended party, so that, the offended party does not feel like they have a right to remain offended or mad. That’s bulls. It’s not allowed. 😒
Just imagine that I offended you, but instead of simply apologising and trying to make amends — maybe because of my ego, or my pride, or arrogance or whatever other stupid reason I could possibly come up with, to circumvent actually apologising to you —, I decide to surprise you by helping you set up that dining table that you’ve been begging me (for ages) to do. Or, I decide that you suddenly deserve an all-expense-paid treat. Or, should I credit your account? Would you like that? Let me see what else I can do that should send the message. 🤔
Some people in relationships — can’t think of a more classic scenario, can you? 😐 — will do something that annoys the other person, and think that a romantic unannounced dinner or a bouquet of stupid roses will do the trick. 🙄 At the tap of my finger, you shall remember my sins no more! ✨ Nonsense. It cannot work. Sorry. You either apologise, or you allow the “I’m-too-big-to-say-sorry” message sink in their minds. Well, if your partner prefers a new car, or an all-expense-paid trip, or — no, sorry, they’re not allowed to be cheap 😑 — sparkly or shiny jewellery, or a new condo, in place of an apology, all well and good for you, if your pocket is capable. 🙂
** I’m listening to music and, ‘You Da One’ came up. I skipped right after saying, “Oh, there’s no one I’m thinking about, always.” 😒 — ‘All Over’ by Tiwa Savage now playing 👀 and if you’ve seen me dance in the dark a couple of times, you’d know that I was sticking my tongue out and whining in my chair, with my hands dancing in front of me. 😕 **
Seriously, though. 😼 Would it kill you to say SORRY?! If you did something and the person who is affected by it insists that they are offended, it’s very likely that you are in no place to argue that you’ve done nothing wrong. Yes. You aren’t. The mere fact that the person is affected by it means that you had a duty to be considerate — except if the person is just being an ass and really doesn’t have a reason to be offended. 🙄 I mean, you can tell when someone is just being childish and petty, right? But, if you feel the need to do something to “make the person feel better” or “less offended”, then you are, in fact, aware that the person probably had a right to be offended.
The point is if you do something to offend someone — oh, you will, at some point 😏, you’re only human —, it is a thing of strength to take responsibility and apologise. As far as I know, you don’t have direct debits running on The Sorry Network subscription. 🙄 No one is asking you to donate blood in exchange for Sorry. Saying it doesn’t shorten your lifespan, contrary to popular belief. You don’t even have to share your Sorry supply with anyone! I mean, just imagine if we had to. 🙄 I’d save mine for when I’ve playfully annoyed someone so much that, they’re threatening my life. 👀
So, say sorry, if you sense that you’ve offended someone, or if they’ve communicated to you, that they’re offended. 🙂 It actually doesn’t hurt, I promise.