some many aspects of life that can be likened to an air journey. This is the scenario: you’re travelling relocating to another place; city, country, continent, planet, wherever. You need to pack the things that are important and virtually indispensable; it’s a one-way journey and, after all, you have limited baggage allowance.
The day of your trip is here. You’ve done multiple headcounts of your belongings. Let’s hope you didn’t even forget anything. Time is far spent! You need to get moving!
Semi- finally, you get to the airport and you’re (please, imagine you are 😂) excited to enter a new phase of your life. You check in your luggage — remember that in these, are the absolute necessities, you can’t afford to forget anything important or valuable.
Scrap all the processes in between check-in and touchdown. You’re at your destination! Your new home! Your new place! You’re so tired from being sleep-barred by the ceaseless noise from the children on the plane. And, when those ones eventually either fell asleep or got tired, the couple behind you who wouldn’t stop going on about how much they love each other, wouldn’t let you catch some snooze bars, either. Then, the man in front of you, who was unperturbed by the noisy atmosphere, reclined his chair, mid-sleep, toppling your food tray onto you. Ha! What a journey! 🙄 I need to settle in, before I lose my mind. 😓
Now, you’re home. It’s a new place, it even smells new. The aesthetics seem to immediately soothe all the discomfort from the plane journey. You settle in and get comfy, munch on the sandwich you grabbed on the way home and push it down with a chilled drink. Next stop: lalaland.
*yawns* What a day! 😪 You’re refreshed. The excitement of a new life washes over you, all over again. Meanwhile, the ambience of the entire house is working overtime. Now that you’re all rested and reenergised, time to unpack and actually settle in.
😳😲😰😱 All those expressions manage to take turns, in turning your face into a singular expression of a nightmare. What is it? Will you quit staring at me and just be out with it, already? Oh, you forgot something important. Just one thing? Pfft. You don’t even have money right now, to fly back. You can try to get another one here, only, it won’t be the same. That one was made especially for you. It was custom-made. 😪
Wait, what?! There’s more? 😰 What else did you forget? Hold on! 😲 You left all those things? How? You forgot to maximise the opportunity to chase after what you really want to do with your life, instead of “managing” your current engagement? You also left behind the opportunity to become your own boss, because you were too preoccupied with the fear of failure, which you remembered to bring along?! What else did you forget? You forgot your age-long best friends, and remembered to carry along the new ones? 😲 You left behind burned bridges, but you remembered to pack your pride and ego? 😦 I hope you didn’t forget to let the rays of love enter the room, or did you pull the blinds on that one? 😶
Wait. What if your journey has not started? In your own journey; you’re the pilot, not a passenger. Your journey doesn’t start until you say it starts, and it doesn’t end until you give the word! 🙂 The whole plane is yours! You can make a U-turn, or you can move forward.
BTW, it’s ok to leave things behind; you’re only human.
Whilst flying, some journeys will be smooth; some will have turbulence, to different degrees; some, you will have to end abruptly and start again. All that is important is that you are aware that you are the solo pilot of your plane. Not society, not family, not friends, not culture, not other people; only YOU. You are your own pilot. Kapish.
You may have left some irretrievable things behind, but the past is there as a checkpoint. Once you’ve left, all there are, are memories and lessons learned.
Fortunately, sometimes, you can travel back and pick up whatever you forgot. But, don’t get comfortable in multiple trips to the same place(s). If you’re thinking, “A few more back and forth wouldn’t hurt, would it?”, ask yourself, “How many trips am I going to make, on the same route? How many times am I going to start over? And, how much am I going to spend on repetitive and unnecessary air expenses, because I keep forgetting the important stuff?” Most importantly, ask yourself, “Am I just ‘travelling’, or am I going to a destination?”
That there’s no baggage allowance limit on your own plane, does not mean that you should overload the aircraft with dead or unnecessary weight. Open your eyes. Pay attention to the important stuff. Recognise and prioritise the things and people that matter most to you. If it’s important to you, let it be at the forefront of your mind. That you can make as many trips as you wish, does not mean that it is productive. Every trip made is an expenditure of resources of time, energy, emotions, etc.
Minimise your trips to each city (career, wealth, love, family, etc.); make them destinations, not indefinite layovers. Plan your trips well; make sure your maps are accurate; have the needed resources; have backup plans (except if it’s in love 😂); be flexible in, and adaptable to, situations (don’t turn back every time there’s a problem); check in the right luggage; check in the needed passengers (no man is an island); and fly the plane! No one else will — well, except if you allow yourself to become a slave to your fears, peer pressure, society and its standards, or manipulative relationships.
Finally, as a pilot, you can start the engine; check in whichever passengers you want to carry on board; check in as much luggage as you want, without leaving anything important behind; dance around the runway; take off; make pit stops; do U-turns and pick up forgotten luggage; do flip overs, even; hover around in the sky, if you’re unsure of what to do next; make an emergency landing; contact the control towers (your support system) if you run into trouble; land your plane. You can do all sorts! Just keep going until you get to your destination. P.S. if you stand up from your seat, before then, your plane will crash. 👀🏃🏾♀️
Let me drop some small, related nuggets: dismiss anyone or anything (especially fear) that is threatening to co-pilot your life with you! Yes, you’re the boss. They can either take a seat in the passenger cabin, or alight from the plane, altogether. Mind you, ensure that whoever alights from the plane carries their checked-in luggage and their hand luggage with them. 😒 #ByeFelicia